You might think that the biggest challenge was getting her number and I hate to break it to you but that was only half the battle.
What you text a girl right after getting her number will affect your chances with her, so it’s important that you send the right text.
This may be a little tricky because you don’t want to appear too eager but you don’t want to sound boring at the same time.
Thinking of that perfect message can be stressful, but don’t worry I got you! Here are some step-by-step ideas for what to text a girl after getting her number.
How Long After Getting Her Number Should You Text Her?
This is a question that people are often not sure about and can mess up. Taking too long to text a girl after you get her number can mess up your chances completely.
It may cause her to lose interest altogether. The longer you wait, the higher the chances that she’ll forget about you. That being said, at the same time, you don’t want to seem too needy either.
While you may have heard of the three-day rule, which basically states that you should text a girl three days after getting her number, it doesn’t hold value anymore.
Times have changed and girls’ interest and attention don’t last for very long anymore. If you want to act, you gotta act quick! It is ideal to do it within 24 hours when you’re still fresh in her mind.
What To Text A Girl After Getting Her Number
- Introduce Yourself in a Fun Manner
- Refer To Something You Two Spoke About
- Say Something Funny
- Make Conversation
- Step it Up With Some Flirtation
- Send A Sneaky Picture
- Ask Her Questions About Herself
- Ask Her Out
Now the next question is what should you text her?
The first message after getting her number is a make-it-or-break-it moment. You don’t want to come off too strong, but at the same time, you want it to be powerful enough for you to stay on her mind. I will guide you step by step:
Step 1 – Introduce Yourself In a Fun Manner
So in the first text, you will obviously have to introduce yourself to her so that she knows who it is. But that introduction should be fun and catchy enough to grab her interest.
For example, instead of saying ‘Hi this is XYZ’ say something like ‘Hi beautiful, XYZ here just wanted to let you know that I had an amazing time last night’.
It doesn’t have to be too long or elaborate, but not three words either. By calling her beautiful or something along those lines, you are flattering her and hence gaining her interest. You are also allowing her the opportunity to reply to you, as opposed to just letting her know it’s you. She’s likely to reply by telling you that she had a great time too.
Step 2 – Refer To Something You Two Spoke About
You don’t want the conversation to get awkward, so a good way to start it is by referencing something you two spoke about earlier. It’ll be a good starting point.
For example, if it was at a bar that you two met, you can maybe talk about the bartender or refer to the music that was playing. Maybe you can continue a discussion you were having with her or mention something she told you about.
That way she’ll know that you were paying attention and it’ll give you two something to talk about before you can smoothly move on to other topics.
Step 3 – Say Something Funny
The next step is to keep the conversation going by making her laugh. The first thing that attracts a girl to a guy is his sense of humor so don’t miss out on that one.
Crack a joke or reference something from when you two hung out. You can even send a gif or meme that is relevant. By doing this you will not only make her laugh but will also make her feel comfortable talking to you; it’ll break the ice!
This one can go two ways; it can either go great and keep the conversation flowing or sometimes it can even go the opposite way, so you have to be careful.
Something to keep in mind here though is not to overdo it, as this may make you seem cocky and she could get put off. Just crack a joke or two and stay well within your limits.
Also, be careful what you choose to joke about. Make sure that it’s not something that could possibly offend her; men can be oblivious when it comes to these things.
The biggest example would probably be a girl’s weight, that’s somewhere you don’t wanna go. Even if you think she’s cute and chubby it’s not something she’d take as a joke, so you should make sure that it has nothing to do with how she looks.
Step 4 – Make Conversation
Keep the conversation flowing by talking to her about things happening around. This could be anything from the latest celebrity gossip to something that’s going on in the world.
However, you have to make sure to keep it short and interesting.
For instance, if you go on about politics she’ll just get bored and probably stop replying. The best way to make conversation about such things is to do it with the help of memes regarding these topics. They can assist you in your conversation and will keep it from getting boring.
Step 5 – Step It Up With Some Flirtation
After you have created some banter, you can bring in the flirtation. This will keep the conversation interesting and will have her hooked. You may want to be a bit careful about keeping it subtle because if it comes off as too strong it could scare her off.
An example of a flirty text is saying something like “Too bad you left early last night, we could have had some fun”. That way she’ll know that it’s not just friendly and that you are interested in her, which will make her more interested.
Step 6 – Send A Sneaky Picture
A few texts into the convo, you can slip in a sneaky snap. This can be anything, from a selfie to your food or what you’re doing, e.g. a TV show that you may be watching.
Sending it will make the conversation smoother as she will feel more comfortable with you seeing your surroundings or your face. Sending a selfie may just even remind her why she even gave you her number in the first place so go for it.
Another advantage of this is that it will probably make her reciprocate it with a picture too, hence you two will keep the conversation going and will get comfortable with each other much faster.
Pro tip: make sure you don’t overdo it with the snaps and pictures as this could overwhelm her. Keep it simple, oh and don’t send a dirty picture, it’s probably too soon for those!
Step 7 – Ask Her Questions About Herself
All the texts can’t be flirty or she’ll get bored.
Show her that you’re interested in her and would like to get to know her. You can do this by asking her questions about herself. Ask her how she likes spending her free time or what her favorite animal is. She’ll be flattered that you care and it’ll keep her engaged in the conversation.
An example of this is ‘ So what do you like to do right before you sleep’ or ‘what’s your ideal Sunday like?’ This way you’re getting to know her, yet asking interesting questions. You can even play around with her answers and drop in hints of how you two can do it together.
For example, if she says that she likes spending her Sundays eating in bed, you can subtly drop in the fact that you’re a great cook. That way it won’t come off as trying too hard, yet it’ll keep it interesting.
Make sure that it doesn’t sound too much like an interview because that could have the opposite effect of what you’re trying to achieve.
Step 8 – Ask Her Out
Once you two have gotten a conversation flowing, you can muster up the courage and ask her out. It has to be the right moment, so build up to it, and when you feel like she’s likely to say yes, go for it! Make sure it’s not too soon, at least a few texts in because otherwise, it could freak her out.
The key here is to play it casually.
For example, you can text her saying ‘Oh btw, this band/movie is playing this weekend and I have an extra ticket, do you wanna go with me?’ Or if think that you two have made considerable progress and are hitting it off, you can be more direct and say something like ‘Would you like to have dinner with me sometime this weekend?’
Follow these 8 steps in texting a girl after getting her number and it’ll provide you with great results.