He or She Hasn’t Confirmed The Date? [Do This Immediately!]

I know how it feels when they haven’t confirmed the date and you’re left hanging in the balance.

They may have said, “Let’s meet this weekend!” but haven’t sent you a text to decide the time and place.

If you are wondering, “What do I do when they haven’t confirmed our date for tomorrow?” you have clicked on the right link.

Here are some tips to help you get over that nagging feeling of uncertainty.

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Why Haven’t They Confirmed The Date?

You may have verbally planned a date with someone, but either the time or place is still left undecided.

The curiosity may be killing you, and you may be wondering if lack of communication means they are not really interested in seeing you.

However, before you make assumptions, let’s evaluate the reasons they haven’t confirmed the date:

1. Anxiety

It is common to feel nervous about confirming a date. If the other person is a girl, the chance that they are anxious is even higher. A woman often expects a man to confirm so that she does not come across as too desperate. 

Anxiety may still be a real possibility if the other person is a man. Men can often hesitate to confirm a date if they are worried about rejection. If you want some tips to appear more confident, check out the book “Dating Sucks, but You Don’t” on Amazon.

2. Doubt

If you don’t often engage in a conversation with the person you are going to date, they may be doubtful about the way you feel. Perhaps, they are self-conscious by nature and think that lack of casual conversation means you are not too interested in them.

3. Playing Hard to Get

People often maintain a busy persona to gain more respect. For all you know, they may be desperately waiting for a call or text from your end to confirm the date. 

According to Alexa Mellardo, a person who plays hard to get “likes to appear busy, create intrigue and keep ‘em guessing.

This may be their way of gauging your interest in them, or they may be wary if they have experienced rejection in the past.

Should You Confirm the Date?

Yes, it is totally alright to confirm a date yourself no matter who asked the other out. Contrary to popular opinion, confirming a date does not mean that you are emotionally weak. 

If you are new to the dating game, finalizing a date may lie well outside your comfort zone. However, I assure you that confirming a date does not scream “desperate” at all. Doing so in a light and calm manner simply enhances your image as a courteous person. Asking for confirmation is a sign that you are polite and respect the decision of the other person. 

It’s normal to feel slightly irritated that they don’t remember the plans you made together. However, try to understand that the world does not revolve around you. Perhaps, the other person has a rather busy routine and the weekend plan just slipped their mind. Alternatively, they may be going through a serious issue in their personal life and forgot their verbal agreement with you.

Confirming a date does not only demonstrate maturity but can also quell the anxiety within you. So ditch the hesitation and make a move. 

Before you do so, there are some aspects you need to keep in mind. Keep reading to find out the ideal attitude to adopt before you confirm plans.

According to Sally Painter, “You can easily send a text message to confirm your date. Just act natural and you’ll appear to be cool.

Here are some tips to help you along the way:

1. Don’t Be Clingy

It may be taking all your resolve to not send them a text message to confirm your date. It’s generally okay to do so, but make sure you don’t appear too needy. 

Take some time to think about how you’ll word your text so that you don’t come across as desperate. The first step is to think of your date simply as two people planning to meet up. It’s possible that you have a major crush on them but try to suppress that feeling, at least for the time being.

I know I’ve made the mistake of appearing too “available” for a guy I wanted a future with, but trust me you don’t want to take that route. Once you tone down your excitement, it will be easier for you to interact with them without sounding too eager.

2. Question the Logistics

This is one of the smartest and most comfortable ways to confirm a date. You can send them a text saying, “Hey! How are you getting there tomorrow night?”

Such a text is an effective way to gauge their intentions. If they reply saying, “I‘m gonna get off at ABC Station and walk over”, you have your answer!

Whether they already had the date confirmed in their head or remembered it only after your text, the end result is that they are definitely interested in seeing you. 

Their reply can also help you judge how excited they are to meet you. If they add a line such as “Looking forward to seeing you!” it is a clear indication of their eagerness.

Another scenario is that they give you a flaky reply like, “Oh, I’m so sorry. I forgot to let you know that I have an appointment at the dentist’s today.” 

This is the first sign of their lack of interest in going out with you. If they don’t follow up with a text asking to reschedule the date, then believe me you should drop them like a hot brick and move on. It’s best to invest your time with someone more considerate and empathetic.

3. Conversational Confirmation

Start a conversation with them via text and throw in the date casually. This is even easier if you two normally talk often through text messages. 

You don’t even have to specifically ask about the date. Simply refer to it with the assumption that it is confirmed.

Remember, the more you overthink the details, the harder and more awkward things would become. Just consider it like checking if your friend is still up for a casual meet-up. 

For example, if you plan to take them on a stroll, you can send a text saying “Make sure you wear comfy shoes tonight! I think we should take a walk to one amazing place after coffee”. If they are enthusiastic about the date, they are likely to respond in a similar tone.

Another example text is, “Hey, I’d like to remind you that it would be raining tomorrow. But don’t worry, I will bring an umbrella.” 

Dropping in the date in a conversation can help remind the other person of their commitment to you without making you sound over-excited. 

Watch this helpful video to guide you with setting up and confirming a date.

4. Change the Meeting Time

An easy way to confirm a date is by texting them to change the meeting time. For instance, you can send them a text saying “Hey. I’m gonna be running late tomorrow. Can we meet 15 minutes later?”

Such a message communicates your interest in meeting them, but at the same time shows them that you have plans other than the date. This kind of move not only makes them change their plans for you but also prompts them to treat you right. 

However, if your date involves a restaurant reservation at a particular time or a watching a movie at a set time, choose a different tactic.

5. Be Short and Upbeat

Who doesn’t like a partner who exudes positive energy? It is always a good idea to send a casual, playful text to confirm your date.

Type in something like “Hey stranger, you still good for 6:00 pm?” and press the send button. The word “stranger” makes a playful reference to the lack of communication, and the casual tone averts the risk of sounding needy. You can word the text differently to match your personality while maintaining an upbeat attitude. 

In case they haven’t responded to a previous text of yours, you can politely text them that you made other plans since you didn’t hear back from them. 

Such a text will let the other person know that their lack of interest is not a big deal for you and that you have other friends to spend time with. Watch this video to better judge whether someone is flaking on you. 

6. Classic Confirmation Text

If you would rather not mince your words, just muster the confidence to confirm the date in a straightforward manner. 

Simply text asking “Hey [name], still good for tonight?

With a frank approach, you are likely to receive a clear answer, while providing an opportunity for a follow-up conversation as well. 

Remember to sound upbeat and confident. Don’t be disheartened if they cancel on you. They will reschedule if they are truly interested in you, and if they don’t, that simply means someone better is waiting for you in the future!

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