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How To Make Your Ex Love You Again (9 Surefire Tips!)

The person you love and wanted to spend your life with, has ended your relationship and left you hurt and depressed. Every single day and night, you crave to get them back.

However, what if, instead of making schemes to bring them back, you could tempt them into wanting you back.

Sounds too good to be true? Well, it does not have to be, especially by the time you are done reading this article.

Here we go:

1. Figure out why they left you

Figure out why they left you – and acknowledge the possibility of your fault.

This is easier said than done, but it is essential to assess your relationship – and its eventual downfall – with an unbiased eye.

Is it possible that they left you because, despite loving them, you inadvertently ended up being annoying or too jealous? Did you try and understand them often enough? Perhaps, they did not like your approach to the relationship.

Before you start figuring out ways to make your ex fall in love with you again, you need to understand why they stopped doing it in the first place.

2. Free Yourself of Your Ex

Now, this might sound counterintuitive, but stay with me.

Unless you can set yourself free of your ex-partner, you will never be able to conceal your passion and desire for them. And, as long as they know that you are out there awaiting them, they will take you for granted and even start seeing you as a backup in case their next relationship does not work out.

If you want your ex to chase you, you had better start moving from the spot you have been rooted to since the day they left.

3. Do not make yourself available

Building up from the previous point – your ex left you, didn’t they? They prioritized their wishes over yours, so now you need to return the favor. Start focusing on yourself, your life, and doing the things that you are passionate about (except your ex, of course).

Your ex is not a part of your life anymore, and you need to remind them of that. You do not need to be their go-to person anymore. Do not respond to their, “Hey, I needed a little favor…” texts anymore.

The less you are available for your ex, the easier it will be for you to follow point number one.

4. Focus on improving your life

Not just to get your ex back, but because you owe it to yourself. Enhance your positive traits while minimizing the negative ones.

Start grooming your:

  • Appearance
  • Attitude
  • Personality

Allow your breakup to fuel your motivation to improve your life and become the best version of yourself.

5. Start working out

Of course, this can be seen as an extension of point number four, since regular exercising will help you get into better shape and health, and introduce more control and discipline in your life.

However, that is not the only reason you should embrace physical activity.

You must have read that working out releases ‘feel good’ hormones called endorphins. By boosting your mood, these hormones will help ease the stinging pain of your breakup.

6. Pamper yourself

A breakup might make you feel unlovable and worthless. However, remember that the first step towards improving your life is falling in love with yourself.

Since you can now spend all your money on yourself, use some of it to:

  • Buy your favorite books.
  • Tuck in at your favorite restaurant.
  • Grab a ticket to your favorite movie.

Promise yourself that you will take better care of yourself, but without compromising your health (by overeating, for example). You need to improve your life while also showing your ex that they had no idea what they passed on.

7. Increase socialization

Your ex was not the only person in your life, and this is the best time to remember that.

This does not mean that you need to start dating someone else, but do spend time around other people.

Click pictures with your friends and colleagues and post them to your social media for your ex to see. Waking up to the fact that they do not have all your attention might trigger feelings of jealousy and force your ex to adopt more aggressive ways to get you back.

However, for the right effect, it is crucial that you keep it subtle and natural. If your ex starts believing that you are going the extra mile to make them feel jealous, their self-importance will shoot up, and your plan to get them back will take a considerable turn for the worse.

8. Approach your ex

Take this step only when you think you are ready.

Talk to your ex, and let your feelings be known to them. Also, let them notice the improved person that you have become and the amount of effort it took.

Once you express your feelings to your ex, they will either:

  • Tell you that they still love you too and want to give the relationship another chance.
  • Let you know that they do not have any feelings for you and that getting back together is out of the question.

If the former happens, give yourself a pat on the back – your ex is back with you, just like you wanted.

If the latter happens, still pat yourself on the back, because now you can finally search for someone who will appreciate and love you for who you are.

9. Accept the circumstances

Whether your ex is back with you, or you have decided to finally move on from the past, it is crucial to accept the circumstances.

Be thankful for your experiences, for they made you a better and wiser person.

Start this new chapter with a big and braver heart, and remember not to repeat the mistakes that you previously made.

Whatever happens, keep in mind that you are beautiful inside out, and you need to value your body, heart, mind, and soul.

Does Your Ex Miss You?

If you have read this article so far, I am sure that you have wondered more than once if your ex misses you the same way you miss them. If they do, you know that you have more than just a chance of getting back together.

Of course, the only surefire way to know is to ask them point-blank, but there are other signs that might help you answer this burning question.

1. They initiate contact

Often, a breakup means that the two parties start walking their separate routes and end contact or reduce it to a minimum.

However, does your ex commit never to talk to you again, only to return with renewed hostility a couple of days later?

It is very much possible that they are doing it because they cannot stay away from you and are desperate to stay in touch.

After all, they are still dedicating their time, energy, and passion towards you – a sign that you are still very much important to them.

2. They still wish you on your birthday

Another sign that they not only still care about you, but are looking for excuses to contact you – especially if your ex is not renowned for remembering important dates and occasions.

So, unless the two of you have made a mutual decision to remain friends, it is likely that your ex still has a burning flame for you in the chambers of their heart.

3. They ‘joke’ about missing you

“Hey, I was just surfing through Netflix and came across ‘FRIENDS’ – I remember how you forced me to watch it with you, even though I loathed that TV show. Hahaha.”

If you get such a text, do not brush it off as a joke. It is possible that your ex is telling you that they miss you, and they are using humor to hedge their bets – if they do not get the desired response, they can always use ‘just kidding’ to navigate an awkward situation.

4. They get jealous of seeing you talk to other guys/girls

In my opinion and experience, there are few – if any – emotions harder to conceal than jealousy.

Say you and your ex are attending a mutual friend’s party, and you are interacting with someone from the opposite gender. A few minutes later, your ex suddenly starts getting mean and rude to you.

If so, it is a clear sign that they still feel something for you. Else, why would you spending time with other people bother them so much?

5. They try to make you jealous

Be it your ex uploading pictures of them suited up at work or posting clips from exotic beaches, it is likely that your ex is trying super-hard to get some sort of reaction from you.

Or, if that does not feel enough to them, they might even flirt with other people right in front of your face (maybe at that same mutual friend’s party).

In short, if your ex is going out of the way to flaunt their accomplishments, they are trying to reignite any feelings that they think you might still have for them.

It is not exactly a healthy approach on their part, but it is a sign for you, nevertheless.

6. They stalk you on social media

Of course, if you are both still connected on social media, a like or comment here and there probably means nothing.

However, if your ex is commenting on every picture that you post, as well as going back and liking almost all of your older ones as well, well, now that is far from nothing.

It means that your ex wants to stay updated about your life and also want to make their presence felt. 

It could even mean that they miss you and want you back in their life. Or, perhaps they are anxious that you might be moving on, and they want to alleviate their anxieties and fears by keeping a constant tab on what is going on in your life.

7. They ‘accidentally’ keep running into you

Suddenly, you are starting to see your ex even more than you did when you were together.

You are buying groceries at the supermarket, and you find them checking out perfumes on the opposite end. You go to the theater, and they call out your name from two rows above.

Maybe, just maybe, those accidental run-ins are not so accidental after all. Maybe it is an indication that your ex is struggling to move on and wants you around them just like the old times.

8. They are not in a new relationship

This is perhaps not as telltale as the other signs. Your ex may want to take time to heal from their last breakup. Or perhaps they just want to enjoy the single life before taking another plunge.

However, if it has been quite some time since the two of you broke up and they are still not dating someone, it might mean that you are irreplaceable to them – especially if you know they have passed on dating opportunities.

9. They want to know if you are dating someone

Your ex might be walking the extra mile to know your relationship status. They could do this through social media or mutual friends, or even by inquiring you in subtle ways.

Again, this could be a sign that they miss you, and they are worried that you will forget about them and move on. Monitoring your relationship status is your ex’s way of assessing whether they still have a shot with you or not.

If your ‘single’ status relieves or pleases your ex, well, that is confirmation of your suspicions.

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